I wanna talk about the dissolution of my marriage

It’s not a secret. But it’s not something I bring up regularly either. I suppose I was a victim, although I don’t think of myself that way, at least not anymore. All of it — the sickness, the lies, the abuse — have become no less than, but also no more than, the pivot of my life so far, the fulcrum around which everything else … Continue reading I wanna talk about the dissolution of my marriage

How to Think About: Monogamy (and not be an idiot)

When we complain that people are generally bad at something, often we’re not saying they don’t understand it, as in they don’t understand it at all. What we’re saying is that they have missed (what appears to us as) a clear application, which is the mark of true understanding. Take stats. Most reasonably educated people understand what correlation is, or variance. They might be able … Continue reading How to Think About: Monogamy (and not be an idiot)